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I Was Wrong – Keeping Mistakes in Perspective

In my recent interview for the Risk Without Regret radio show, I discussed mistakes and how they had shaped my life. I want to add some additional context to making mistakes and where failure is necessary in our personal development.

To leave the road of continual failure, a person must first utter the three most difficult words to say; “I was wrong.”

I WAS WRONG!

You have to open your eyes, admit mistakes, and accept complete responsibility for the current wrong actions and attitudes.

Every failure you experience is a fork in the road. It’s and opportunity to take the right action, learn form your mistakes and begin again. Yet the key here is being able to identify that a mistake is simply that decision and experience. It does not have to define you!

“The better a man is, the more mistakes he will make, for the more new things he will try. I would never promote a top level person who was not making mistakes….otherwise they are sure to be mediocre.” – Leadership expert Peter Drucker


Mistakes really do pave the road to achievement

There is a great acronym that John C. Maxwell has created that is featured in his book – The Maxwell Daily Reader as well as Failing Forward

It helps keep mistakes into perspective.

  • M – messages that give us feedback about life
  • I – interruptions that should cause us to reflect and think
  • S – signposts that direct us to the right path
  • T – tests that push us towards greater maturity
  • A – awakenings that keep us in the game mentally
  • K – keys that we can use to unlock the next door of opportunity
  • E – explorations that let us journey where we’ve never been before
  • S – statements about our development and progress

We all make mistakes. It is how we get up, dust off and learn from these challenges that set the foundation of a life of learning and healing.

Today we have an extra day in the year – February 29th is yours. What will you do with it?
Cheers!
Kolby is The Healthy Primate

Risk Without Regret – My Story

Interview Click the image to listen to the podcast or click HERE

We all have a story. We all have had trials, failures and success of some kind.

I recently had the opportunity to sit down and tell my story on the Risk Without Regret radio show.

There is a reason I share this outside of self promotion. It’s for only one reason really – to show others that we all have to overcome adversity and we are all human. The choice of success and failure is ours and no one else.

You see for over a decade I was ashamed of my younger years and tried to hide them in hopes no one would bring it up.

But guess what? Those stories of my past made me who I am today.

And I am okay with who I am. Shit – I like who I am and where my life is.

But I had to own my past as part of the story and not be ashamed of it.

  • I grew up in a divorced home.
  • I slept on a mattress on the floor.
  • I was a juvenile delinquent who was in and out of the system.
  • I was a single dad.
  • I have been fired from jobs I liked
  • I lost both my parents, lost my source of income, had a major surgery and had a son born in the ICU all within 6 months of each other.

On the flip side of that I have built over 20 projects, business, raised 10 million in capital, helped hundreds of people overcome adversity, I am an author, renegade, lover and happy with who I am.

This is my story. Unfiltered. Unadulterated and OWED.

Today’s lesson – Own your story. Don’t be ashamed of who you are.

Cheers!

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

 

How Sitting on My Ass for an Hour Made Me Smarter

Time management is traditionally brought up when we think of how we manage the tasks we are faced with in our daily routine. This can be manifested through action items at the office, to the things we need to get done at the house.

One area that is often over looked when discussing time management comes in the way of “down time”.  I don’t mean the time you would spend vacationing, sleeping or the space in between tasks. I am talking about one of my favorite times – the time I am in my car for my office commute.

In my day I can often be in the car between 45 minutes to an hour both coming and going to the office. That is 2 hours of time that I am sitting, at attention – waiting! I have to be honest, I hated that time and refused to enjoy it for a long time. As a matter of fact, you could find me complaining about the drive often.

I have ADHD and sitting for any period of time is not something I enjoy or have the attention to manage successfully. There were times I am sure the car next to me thought I was going to jump out and run home if I had to brave another minute of stop and go.

Then something changed. It wasn’t premeditated or even something I can take credit for doing on purpose.

I started listening to podcasts, interviews and audio files in the car. The next thing you know; I was looking forward to the drive as an opportunity to learn. Everything from how to make my own chocolate, how to stretch my own canvas, self improvement, workout ideas, how to speed read, marketing ideas, how to start a business using social media……ETC. The list goes on and on and on. The cool thing about knowledge – there is always something to learn and an avenue to find it.

So this once dreaded time sitting in the car, has now turned into time I can use for myself and for learning.

There are times I will find myself pulling into the house waiting a few minutes just to get the last piece or point before going inside. Who would have thought!

From the billionaire mogul to the stay at home mom, there is one thing that we all share…….

TIME

How can you use yours more effectively?

Cheers!

Kolby is The Healthy Primate


If you want a place to start here are a few podcasts that I really enjoy.

Tim Ferriss: http://fourhourworkweek.com/podcast/

Bio: Timothy Ferriss has been listed as one of Fast Company’s “Most Innovative Business People”, Forbes Magazine’s “Names You Need to Know,” and is the 7th “most powerful” personality on Newsweek’s Digital 100 Power Index for 2012. He is an angel investor/advisor (Uber, Facebook, Twitter, Evernote, and 20+ more) and author of the following books:

  • The 4-Hour Workweek – Sold into 35+ languages, #1 New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and BusinessWeek bestseller.
  • The 4-Hour Body – #1 New York Times bestseller.
  • The 4-Hour Chef – #1 Wall Street Journal and New York Times bestseller; winner of a Gourmand “Best in the World” Award at the 18th Annual Paris Cookbook Awards.

Joe Rogan: http://podcasts.joerogan.net/

Bio: The Joe Rogan Experience podcast is a long form conversation hosted by comedian, UFC color commentator, and actor Joe Rogan with friends and guests that have included comedians, actors, musicians, MMA instructors and commentators, authors, artists, and porn stars. The Joe Rogan Experience was voted the Best Comedy Podcast of 2012 on iTunes. In addition online listening, fans can watch a videocast of the show live on Ustream or tune in on Sirius XM’s “The Virus” channel on Saturdays at Noon ET and Sundays at 5:00 AM and 6:00 PM ET.

 

Our Daily Struggles & The Universe at Large

Marcus Aurelius – Meditations

“Reflect on how many separate events, both bodily and mental, are taking place in each one of us in the same tiny fragment of time: and then you will not be surprised if many more events, indeed all that come to pass, subsist together in the one and the whole, which we call the universe.

 

We all have a series of things happening at any given time. From the stress of work, family and finance – to the weight of simple daily responsibility. At any given time we will often have such an assortment of feeling and emotion all happening simultaneously.

When we put that into perspective – there is a great parallel that is drawn between the personal chaos we create and the multiple facets that are all happening outside our reach in the greater universe.

It makes you wonder how we are all connected and the reach into things bigger than ourselves.

Have a great weekend!

Cheers,

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

Come Alive Be Alert and Show Vigor

I recently picked up an original print of The Strategy or Peace book by then Senator John F. Kennedy. It is a collection of foreign policy speeches, statements on global defense, peace, national security and related domestic issues for the United States during 1960.

Hang in there – this is not a political post as much as it is a mindset toward peace. Not global peace – yet the parallel to inner peace, struggle and self worth.

Chapter 27 – Are We Up to the Task – Washington D.C. January 1, 1960

Certainly it is time for change – time for us, in the words of Walter Lippman, “to come alive and to be alert and to show vigor, and not to keep mouthing the same old slogans, and not to dawdle along in the same old ruts.”

 

But the primary point is that, whether we like it or not, this is a time of change. As a people that set out to change the world, I think we should like it, however difficult the challenges. For no nation is at its best except under great challenge.

 

The question for us now is whether in a changing world we will respond in a way befitting “the land of the free and the home of the brave” – whether we will be at our best in these crucial years our world leadership – whether we will measure to the task awaiting us.

Let’s unpack this for a moment. Take out the politics and think about how these words can be applied to us personally. When under extreme adversity will you crumble or will you stand up to the task to build a better foundation for yourself? I am under some personal trials that have questioned the very fabric that I am built from. In these times – I have to look in the mirror and reflect…. Come alive and to be alert and to show vigor.

Cheers!

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

Clearly Define the Person You Want to Be

Clearly Define the Person You Want to Be

“Who exactly do you want to be? What kind of person do you want to be? What are your personal ideals? Whom do you admire? What are their special traits that you would make your own?”

“It’s time to stop being vague. If you wish to be an extraordinary person, if you wish to be wise, then you should explicitly identify the kind of person you aspire to become. If you have a daybook, write down who are trying to be, so that you can refer to this self- definition. Precisely describe the demeanor you want to adopt so that you may preserve it when you are by yourself or with other people.”  – The Art of Living by Epictetus


Over the past 40 years I have gone through many personal changes. Who I wanted to be and who I became have been through an evolution. You know the cool thing – You can be and do what ever you want at any age. I know it sounds like a card you would get a high school graduation, but it is true.

Start with a simple list. Grab a pen and piece of paper. Write down 10 traits that you like most about the people in your life.

Why do you like these attributes?

What makes them so special?

Highlight or circle the words that you would like to add to your character when people ask about you.

Love, forgiveness, strength, happy, intelligent, driven, beautiful……..

You are what you practice and can be anything you set your mind to becoming.
Have a great weekend!

Cheers,

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

 

 

Emotions Are A Habit – Get The Funk Out!

Tony Robbins 1

 

We all get into a funk. All of us have a day where we wish we never got out of bed. Or the flip side, can’t wait to get back to bed and start over. For years I battled depression. It was something that would take over and for days it would be hard for me to leave the house. Over time these behaviors and mental triggers became a habit.

One day I woke up from the middle of a dark place and said – NO MORE. I no longer accepted a stage of unhappiness as a place I needed to reside. Now i’m not saying that all of the sudden magic “mindset” fairy made things better. I had to find ways to bring happiness as I had forgotten what it meant to be happy.

I made a list of the things that I like doing.

Surfing, Swimming, Gym, Sun, Family, Art, Music, Exploring, Long Drives on my Motorcycle…………..

When I fall into a funk, depression or level of discontent I revert to one of the things I know will kick of the chemical in my brain that makes me happy. FYI that chemical is serotonin.

Being unhappy doesn’t need to become a habit.

Click the image to see a great 2 minute video from Tony Robbins on his thoughts on how to get out of a funk. 

Remember:

  • You get what you tolerate
  • Don’t settle
  • Find a bigger reason to exist- Motive Matters!
  • Habits don’t need to control you
  • You don’t need to stay in a stage of unhappiness.
  • Train yourself to be passionate
  • Train yourself to be strong

Together we can get out of this life alive, happy and in a state where we care about those around us.

Cheers!

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

My First Million Dollars and the Meaning of Wealth

“The best thing about having more, is the ability to give more.” – Kolby Kolibas


This is such a great time of year to be closing strong and gaining momentum for the new year. I can tell you that wasn’t always the case in my thought process. You can relate right? We ramp down with our business and clients the week of Christmas. Then we get back and things are relatively slow into the New Year festivities. Then you can assure that people are a bit hung over from family, over spending and the schedule of relaxation becomes comfortable.  No need to jump back into things until the second week of January right?

That is 3-4 weeks of time we normally slack and relax.

WRONG!

I read a great article from Ryan Stewman, The Hardcore Closer – Titled Why Settling for a 6 Figure Income in Sales is a Bad Idea.

The basis of the article is on having multiple irons in the fire. I don’t mean spreading yourself thin, I mean diversify and expand. Let me feature some quick math to put some things into perspective.

“I’m gonna just come out and say it. “Being a millionaire is the new middle class” there. In my parent’s day, making $100k a year meant something. In today’s times, making $100,000 in 12 months can still leave you completely broke. Half goes to taxes and if you pay $2,000/month in rent, 75% of your income is gone from the jump. That leaves you with only $25,000 to pay all your bills for the year.” –Why Settling for a 6 Figure Income in Sales is a Bad Idea. /Ryan Stewman

This year has been interesting to say the least. With many personal & business trials – I was hit with major set backs. Yet I am not unique – we all struggle. The biggest similarity was one thing – I kept making excuses not to launch some of the core things I know will be helpful to others and draw supplemental income that could be an additional 6-7 figures in 12 months.

You see I have always had a financial goal of $10+ million in the bank. Well that takes making my first million right?

This goal has not been to buy a bunch of shit that I don’t need. I am actually going the other way as I get older. You see the more I gain financially, the more I can help others. From clean water projects that I want to launch overseas, to bringing technology and teaching code to underprivileged schools across the USA. These things are expensive – yet with a ground swell, I can reach these goals financially to launch and gain huge momentum to help others.

So let’s do the math on the road to $1 million dollars in one year.

The YEAR:

  • 365 Days
  • 12 Months
  • 52 Weeks
  • 8760 Hours
  • 525600 Minutes

The Money 

  • $1 Million Dollars in 365 Days I Need to Make $2,739.72 a day

The end of the year is a perfect time to close out open items in 2015, and help you gain huge momentum into the new year. This is the time others are slacking and you can be building. Personally I have spoken with some close friends that are all in the 7 figure income bracket or very close. They are ramping and grinding hard right now – not pulling back. There is a reason for that.

Ok so now knowing what the goal is, it’s time to get cracking!

Cheers!
Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

 

 

Happiness in Giving

“Remember that there is no happiness in having or getting, but only in giving.”

 

“Realize that true happiness lies within you. Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside. Remember that there is no happiness in having or getting, but only in giving.”

“Reach out. Share. Smile. Hug. Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.”

Og Mandino

As we head into the season, it is a great opportunity to remember the gift that is in giving. Have a great week.

Cheers,

Kolby is the Healthy Primate