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I Was Wrong – Keeping Mistakes in Perspective

In my recent interview for the Risk Without Regret radio show, I discussed mistakes and how they had shaped my life. I want to add some additional context to making mistakes and where failure is necessary in our personal development.

To leave the road of continual failure, a person must first utter the three most difficult words to say; “I was wrong.”

I WAS WRONG!

You have to open your eyes, admit mistakes, and accept complete responsibility for the current wrong actions and attitudes.

Every failure you experience is a fork in the road. It’s and opportunity to take the right action, learn form your mistakes and begin again. Yet the key here is being able to identify that a mistake is simply that decision and experience. It does not have to define you!

“The better a man is, the more mistakes he will make, for the more new things he will try. I would never promote a top level person who was not making mistakes….otherwise they are sure to be mediocre.” – Leadership expert Peter Drucker


Mistakes really do pave the road to achievement

There is a great acronym that John C. Maxwell has created that is featured in his book – The Maxwell Daily Reader as well as Failing Forward

It helps keep mistakes into perspective.

  • M – messages that give us feedback about life
  • I – interruptions that should cause us to reflect and think
  • S – signposts that direct us to the right path
  • T – tests that push us towards greater maturity
  • A – awakenings that keep us in the game mentally
  • K – keys that we can use to unlock the next door of opportunity
  • E – explorations that let us journey where we’ve never been before
  • S – statements about our development and progress

We all make mistakes. It is how we get up, dust off and learn from these challenges that set the foundation of a life of learning and healing.

Today we have an extra day in the year – February 29th is yours. What will you do with it?
Cheers!
Kolby is The Healthy Primate

Risk Without Regret – My Story

Interview Click the image to listen to the podcast or click HERE

We all have a story. We all have had trials, failures and success of some kind.

I recently had the opportunity to sit down and tell my story on the Risk Without Regret radio show.

There is a reason I share this outside of self promotion. It’s for only one reason really – to show others that we all have to overcome adversity and we are all human. The choice of success and failure is ours and no one else.

You see for over a decade I was ashamed of my younger years and tried to hide them in hopes no one would bring it up.

But guess what? Those stories of my past made me who I am today.

And I am okay with who I am. Shit – I like who I am and where my life is.

But I had to own my past as part of the story and not be ashamed of it.

  • I grew up in a divorced home.
  • I slept on a mattress on the floor.
  • I was a juvenile delinquent who was in and out of the system.
  • I was a single dad.
  • I have been fired from jobs I liked
  • I lost both my parents, lost my source of income, had a major surgery and had a son born in the ICU all within 6 months of each other.

On the flip side of that I have built over 20 projects, business, raised 10 million in capital, helped hundreds of people overcome adversity, I am an author, renegade, lover and happy with who I am.

This is my story. Unfiltered. Unadulterated and OWED.

Today’s lesson – Own your story. Don’t be ashamed of who you are.

Cheers!

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

 

How Sitting on My Ass for an Hour Made Me Smarter

Time management is traditionally brought up when we think of how we manage the tasks we are faced with in our daily routine. This can be manifested through action items at the office, to the things we need to get done at the house.

One area that is often over looked when discussing time management comes in the way of “down time”.  I don’t mean the time you would spend vacationing, sleeping or the space in between tasks. I am talking about one of my favorite times – the time I am in my car for my office commute.

In my day I can often be in the car between 45 minutes to an hour both coming and going to the office. That is 2 hours of time that I am sitting, at attention – waiting! I have to be honest, I hated that time and refused to enjoy it for a long time. As a matter of fact, you could find me complaining about the drive often.

I have ADHD and sitting for any period of time is not something I enjoy or have the attention to manage successfully. There were times I am sure the car next to me thought I was going to jump out and run home if I had to brave another minute of stop and go.

Then something changed. It wasn’t premeditated or even something I can take credit for doing on purpose.

I started listening to podcasts, interviews and audio files in the car. The next thing you know; I was looking forward to the drive as an opportunity to learn. Everything from how to make my own chocolate, how to stretch my own canvas, self improvement, workout ideas, how to speed read, marketing ideas, how to start a business using social media……ETC. The list goes on and on and on. The cool thing about knowledge – there is always something to learn and an avenue to find it.

So this once dreaded time sitting in the car, has now turned into time I can use for myself and for learning.

There are times I will find myself pulling into the house waiting a few minutes just to get the last piece or point before going inside. Who would have thought!

From the billionaire mogul to the stay at home mom, there is one thing that we all share…….

TIME

How can you use yours more effectively?

Cheers!

Kolby is The Healthy Primate


If you want a place to start here are a few podcasts that I really enjoy.

Tim Ferriss: http://fourhourworkweek.com/podcast/

Bio: Timothy Ferriss has been listed as one of Fast Company’s “Most Innovative Business People”, Forbes Magazine’s “Names You Need to Know,” and is the 7th “most powerful” personality on Newsweek’s Digital 100 Power Index for 2012. He is an angel investor/advisor (Uber, Facebook, Twitter, Evernote, and 20+ more) and author of the following books:

  • The 4-Hour Workweek – Sold into 35+ languages, #1 New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and BusinessWeek bestseller.
  • The 4-Hour Body – #1 New York Times bestseller.
  • The 4-Hour Chef – #1 Wall Street Journal and New York Times bestseller; winner of a Gourmand “Best in the World” Award at the 18th Annual Paris Cookbook Awards.

Joe Rogan: http://podcasts.joerogan.net/

Bio: The Joe Rogan Experience podcast is a long form conversation hosted by comedian, UFC color commentator, and actor Joe Rogan with friends and guests that have included comedians, actors, musicians, MMA instructors and commentators, authors, artists, and porn stars. The Joe Rogan Experience was voted the Best Comedy Podcast of 2012 on iTunes. In addition online listening, fans can watch a videocast of the show live on Ustream or tune in on Sirius XM’s “The Virus” channel on Saturdays at Noon ET and Sundays at 5:00 AM and 6:00 PM ET.

 

Our Daily Struggles & The Universe at Large

Marcus Aurelius – Meditations

“Reflect on how many separate events, both bodily and mental, are taking place in each one of us in the same tiny fragment of time: and then you will not be surprised if many more events, indeed all that come to pass, subsist together in the one and the whole, which we call the universe.

 

We all have a series of things happening at any given time. From the stress of work, family and finance – to the weight of simple daily responsibility. At any given time we will often have such an assortment of feeling and emotion all happening simultaneously.

When we put that into perspective – there is a great parallel that is drawn between the personal chaos we create and the multiple facets that are all happening outside our reach in the greater universe.

It makes you wonder how we are all connected and the reach into things bigger than ourselves.

Have a great weekend!

Cheers,

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

Come Alive Be Alert and Show Vigor

I recently picked up an original print of The Strategy or Peace book by then Senator John F. Kennedy. It is a collection of foreign policy speeches, statements on global defense, peace, national security and related domestic issues for the United States during 1960.

Hang in there – this is not a political post as much as it is a mindset toward peace. Not global peace – yet the parallel to inner peace, struggle and self worth.

Chapter 27 – Are We Up to the Task – Washington D.C. January 1, 1960

Certainly it is time for change – time for us, in the words of Walter Lippman, “to come alive and to be alert and to show vigor, and not to keep mouthing the same old slogans, and not to dawdle along in the same old ruts.”

 

But the primary point is that, whether we like it or not, this is a time of change. As a people that set out to change the world, I think we should like it, however difficult the challenges. For no nation is at its best except under great challenge.

 

The question for us now is whether in a changing world we will respond in a way befitting “the land of the free and the home of the brave” – whether we will be at our best in these crucial years our world leadership – whether we will measure to the task awaiting us.

Let’s unpack this for a moment. Take out the politics and think about how these words can be applied to us personally. When under extreme adversity will you crumble or will you stand up to the task to build a better foundation for yourself? I am under some personal trials that have questioned the very fabric that I am built from. In these times – I have to look in the mirror and reflect…. Come alive and to be alert and to show vigor.

Cheers!

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

Clearly Define the Person You Want to Be

Clearly Define the Person You Want to Be

“Who exactly do you want to be? What kind of person do you want to be? What are your personal ideals? Whom do you admire? What are their special traits that you would make your own?”

“It’s time to stop being vague. If you wish to be an extraordinary person, if you wish to be wise, then you should explicitly identify the kind of person you aspire to become. If you have a daybook, write down who are trying to be, so that you can refer to this self- definition. Precisely describe the demeanor you want to adopt so that you may preserve it when you are by yourself or with other people.”  – The Art of Living by Epictetus


Over the past 40 years I have gone through many personal changes. Who I wanted to be and who I became have been through an evolution. You know the cool thing – You can be and do what ever you want at any age. I know it sounds like a card you would get a high school graduation, but it is true.

Start with a simple list. Grab a pen and piece of paper. Write down 10 traits that you like most about the people in your life.

Why do you like these attributes?

What makes them so special?

Highlight or circle the words that you would like to add to your character when people ask about you.

Love, forgiveness, strength, happy, intelligent, driven, beautiful……..

You are what you practice and can be anything you set your mind to becoming.
Have a great weekend!

Cheers,

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

 

 

That Wet Rug Is Going To Kill You

“It is so common for us to carry the weight of the day like a wet rug. Overtime our body over compensates to adjust to the burdens.”

For the past year I have spent time implementing various techniques to help address the stress I was under. From work, family, personal and health issues – we all carry a heavy load. One area that has been instrumental in balancing things out and helping me truly find peace and reasoning – is in something we do daily. By the minute, hour, month year and then we stop.

It is something that is forced us into as we leave the womb.

BREATH

It was 8PM and I was scrolling through my emails. Up pops a feature from Living Social for True Rest Float Spa.  You see I had heard of floating as a great meditation practice. I have also heard that it is super intense and not for those willing to step out and try something new.

Why not? I will book a session. I mean what is the worst that can happen? I can drown, have an out of body experience, the janitor may walk in on me naked, I may get stuck in the pod…… nothing can go wrong right? Sounds like a party I want to be invited to.

The website sums up my reasoning:

Imagine an environment free from gravity, strain, tension, or pain. Imagine if you could Float effortlessly without distractions or unwanted noise. YOU CAN!

You see what I found was something so unique I can only explain it as I shared in the spa journal.

“It is so common for us to carry the weight of the day like a wet rug. Overtime our body compensates to adjust to the burden. Floating takes the weight and removes it completely. Can’t wait to do it again. Just breathe!”

journal


What is Floating and why in the hell would someone actually do it?


 

If you are struggling with anxiety, injury, the stress of the daily routine – or you just want to try something new – go float. If you are in Arizona or the area, please go by and see Laura at True Rest in Gilbert AZ.

Contact and site details below:

1525 N. Gilbert Rd, Suite 109, Gilbert, AZ 85234 View Map

(480) 219-7990

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Cheers,

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

Self Mastery Depends on Self Honesty

“Know first who you are and what you’re capable of.” – Epictetus

Just as nothing great is created instantly, the same goes for the perfecting of our talents and aptitudes. We are always learning, always growing. It is right to accept challenges. This is how we progress to the next level of intellectual, physical, or moral development. Still, don’t kid yourself: If you try to be something or someone you are not, you belittle your true self and end up not developing in those areas that you would have excelled at quite naturally.

Within the divine order, we each have our own special calling. Listen to yours and follow it faithfully.

The above comes from one of my favorite books, The Art of Living by the Stoic – Epictetus.


 

With the road to 2016 now only 2 days away, I couldn’t help but personally reflect on the above passage. The areas I have found the most personal growth is when I started caring less of what others would think, and focused on myself and others in my life that really mater.

We all have our own personal calling. Are you listening? Make today great.

Cheers,

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

Show Me a Man Who Cannot Be Bothered – The Future of The Healthy Primate

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“Show me a man who cannot be bothered to do the little things and I will show you a man that cannot be trusted to do the big things.” Lawerence Dale

There have been many new and exciting things going on behind the scenes here at The Healthy Primate. It has caused me to pull the breaks back a bit to assure I can deliver on the core mission of why I started sharing this journey. A quick insight into some things that we are working on.

  1. Book Release – Stress Management
  2. Video Series to support the book
  3. Partnership with one of the leading fitness groups in the United States
  4. Possible brick and mortar location for a training facility
  5. Family, holidays, and daily life

I have 2 podcasts that are in edit from the past, these will be posted shortly. As the quote above states – are you willing and able to do the small things in your business that will lead to the biggest impact?

Cheers!

Kolby I The Healthy Primate

3 Things You Can Do to Change Your Life in 10 Minutes or Less

There are so many small changes that you can make daily or weekly to effect your overall happiness, mindset and energy. If you have never run a marathon you shouldn’t set an unrealistic goal of running 5 days a week, if you don’t run at all today. You are setting yourself up for failure.

It is the science of goal setting that will help your path to success.

Below are some things I have implemented in my routine that have shaped my happiness and sense of fulfillment.

  1. Clean Your Workspace: Get all those papers & sticky notes put away. Take a wet wipe, or damp cloth and simply wipe things down. Your mouse, keyboard, monitor and desk area. The sense of clean and arranged work space allows the mind to feel less cluttered and free to make decisions and choices.
  2. Unplug: Our internet went down last night. The kids were watching Netflix, the wife was wanting to watch Hulu and I was working on invoices for open projects that needed to be emailed. At first there was that feeling of panic. Then we all went upstairs, climbed into our bed and relaxed. The kids went to sleep early, mom and I had the chance to tell stories of the week, laugh and simply hang out. It was nice to know that we didn’t need technology to co exist.
  3. Breathe: Your lungs and mind are always working. While sleeping or awake, these functions continue. Yet are you fully aware of the benefits of boosting your PH levels and dropping your O2 levels? It serves as a cleanse, stress release and mind focus exercise that will change the way you think of this basic function.

Breathing Exercise: Sit at your chair in your office or lie on your bedroom floor. Close your eyes. Take a deep breath in as much air as you can fit in your lungs. Breathe out – only let half of the air out and take another deep breath in all the way let it half way out.

 

Do this for the count of 30 breaths in. On the last breath in let all the air out – every piece from your lungs. And sit. How long can your go before having to take a breath? Your first round can be up to 3 minutes. Your body is starting to become oxygenated.

 

Continue this for 3 rounds. You are now starting to practice the Wim Hof Method. It will change your life, I promise.

Have a great end of week and Friday!

Cheers,

Kolby I The Healthy Primate