“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply”- Stephen R. Covey
What I love about this journey we call life are the fragile frameworks in the people we meet. Those who inspire, those who teach and those we completely avoid. I met Dennis a few years ago working in corporate america. I had been an established executive at a Fortune 500 company and was he was entering the work force as I was planning my exit. We had a few things in common off the bat. A mutual friend in Danny Jones, a background that would make a roadie for Motley Crue to blush, a collection of tattoos that go below the sleeve line and a tangible love and passion for living.
Dennis and I had a discussion around his views and possibly contributing as a guest editor. Knowing his drive to get a positive message out to our readers he immediately submitted what you are about to read.
Dennis Gable has spent thousands of hours speaking to small and medium sized audiences. His primary topics are story telling, vulnerability, and how today is the connecting dot between your past and your future. It’s my pleasure to share this weeks guest post from Mr. Gable.
Are You Who You’ve Been Waiting For?
There are a few experiences that are universal to every human regardless of success, socioeconomic status, religion, race, age, or citizenship. The positive experiences include things like, happiness, & love. There is also another list that doesn’t get nearly as much press, this other list includes things like shame, rejection, guilt, & anger. There isn’t much of a social network for sharing these experiences without also feeling the wrath and judgment from our fellow man. You’ll hear more in a succeeding newsletter about an app that will provide a safe, anonymous place for you to share these experiences without being beaten down by an internet troll, or put on blast by TMZ. But, until then what do we do with these memories, regrets, & insecurities that have an unfortunate grip on how we treat ourselves, the ones we love, and the world around us?
We start by finding refuge within ourselves. What I am not suggesting is that we justify the severity of our action to lessen the effect they have/had on us or someone else, rather, that we would explore and endure the trials of internal vulnerability. Maybe, just maybe, you are the person you’ve been waiting for to grant you forgiveness and grace. May I also suggest that it is your shoulder that needs to be drenched in your tears. This process comes adorned with a thoughtful alliteration:
Relive the experiences one at a time.
Resolve the emotional outcome of those experience.
Relieve yourself of the emotional responsibility in order to move on.
This process is not easy but it is simple, and with enough effort the residual dividends will be absolutely priceless to your future, and in searching for freedom from these experiential burdens.
In conclusion, may I make one last statement of intention: I am not suggesting or encouraging that we look at ourselves as our own saviors, or that we discard a spiritual deity during this process either. I am simply suggesting that the pursuit of emotional freedom may begin by having some serious dialogue with the man/woman in the mirror.