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I Was Wrong – Keeping Mistakes in Perspective

In my recent interview for the Risk Without Regret radio show, I discussed mistakes and how they had shaped my life. I want to add some additional context to making mistakes and where failure is necessary in our personal development.

To leave the road of continual failure, a person must first utter the three most difficult words to say; “I was wrong.”

I WAS WRONG!

You have to open your eyes, admit mistakes, and accept complete responsibility for the current wrong actions and attitudes.

Every failure you experience is a fork in the road. It’s and opportunity to take the right action, learn form your mistakes and begin again. Yet the key here is being able to identify that a mistake is simply that decision and experience. It does not have to define you!

“The better a man is, the more mistakes he will make, for the more new things he will try. I would never promote a top level person who was not making mistakes….otherwise they are sure to be mediocre.” – Leadership expert Peter Drucker


Mistakes really do pave the road to achievement

There is a great acronym that John C. Maxwell has created that is featured in his book – The Maxwell Daily Reader as well as Failing Forward

It helps keep mistakes into perspective.

  • M – messages that give us feedback about life
  • I – interruptions that should cause us to reflect and think
  • S – signposts that direct us to the right path
  • T – tests that push us towards greater maturity
  • A – awakenings that keep us in the game mentally
  • K – keys that we can use to unlock the next door of opportunity
  • E – explorations that let us journey where we’ve never been before
  • S – statements about our development and progress

We all make mistakes. It is how we get up, dust off and learn from these challenges that set the foundation of a life of learning and healing.

Today we have an extra day in the year – February 29th is yours. What will you do with it?
Cheers!
Kolby is The Healthy Primate

Risk Without Regret – My Story

Interview Click the image to listen to the podcast or click HERE

We all have a story. We all have had trials, failures and success of some kind.

I recently had the opportunity to sit down and tell my story on the Risk Without Regret radio show.

There is a reason I share this outside of self promotion. It’s for only one reason really – to show others that we all have to overcome adversity and we are all human. The choice of success and failure is ours and no one else.

You see for over a decade I was ashamed of my younger years and tried to hide them in hopes no one would bring it up.

But guess what? Those stories of my past made me who I am today.

And I am okay with who I am. Shit – I like who I am and where my life is.

But I had to own my past as part of the story and not be ashamed of it.

  • I grew up in a divorced home.
  • I slept on a mattress on the floor.
  • I was a juvenile delinquent who was in and out of the system.
  • I was a single dad.
  • I have been fired from jobs I liked
  • I lost both my parents, lost my source of income, had a major surgery and had a son born in the ICU all within 6 months of each other.

On the flip side of that I have built over 20 projects, business, raised 10 million in capital, helped hundreds of people overcome adversity, I am an author, renegade, lover and happy with who I am.

This is my story. Unfiltered. Unadulterated and OWED.

Today’s lesson – Own your story. Don’t be ashamed of who you are.

Cheers!

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

 

How Sitting on My Ass for an Hour Made Me Smarter

Time management is traditionally brought up when we think of how we manage the tasks we are faced with in our daily routine. This can be manifested through action items at the office, to the things we need to get done at the house.

One area that is often over looked when discussing time management comes in the way of “down time”.  I don’t mean the time you would spend vacationing, sleeping or the space in between tasks. I am talking about one of my favorite times – the time I am in my car for my office commute.

In my day I can often be in the car between 45 minutes to an hour both coming and going to the office. That is 2 hours of time that I am sitting, at attention – waiting! I have to be honest, I hated that time and refused to enjoy it for a long time. As a matter of fact, you could find me complaining about the drive often.

I have ADHD and sitting for any period of time is not something I enjoy or have the attention to manage successfully. There were times I am sure the car next to me thought I was going to jump out and run home if I had to brave another minute of stop and go.

Then something changed. It wasn’t premeditated or even something I can take credit for doing on purpose.

I started listening to podcasts, interviews and audio files in the car. The next thing you know; I was looking forward to the drive as an opportunity to learn. Everything from how to make my own chocolate, how to stretch my own canvas, self improvement, workout ideas, how to speed read, marketing ideas, how to start a business using social media……ETC. The list goes on and on and on. The cool thing about knowledge – there is always something to learn and an avenue to find it.

So this once dreaded time sitting in the car, has now turned into time I can use for myself and for learning.

There are times I will find myself pulling into the house waiting a few minutes just to get the last piece or point before going inside. Who would have thought!

From the billionaire mogul to the stay at home mom, there is one thing that we all share…….

TIME

How can you use yours more effectively?

Cheers!

Kolby is The Healthy Primate


If you want a place to start here are a few podcasts that I really enjoy.

Tim Ferriss: http://fourhourworkweek.com/podcast/

Bio: Timothy Ferriss has been listed as one of Fast Company’s “Most Innovative Business People”, Forbes Magazine’s “Names You Need to Know,” and is the 7th “most powerful” personality on Newsweek’s Digital 100 Power Index for 2012. He is an angel investor/advisor (Uber, Facebook, Twitter, Evernote, and 20+ more) and author of the following books:

  • The 4-Hour Workweek – Sold into 35+ languages, #1 New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and BusinessWeek bestseller.
  • The 4-Hour Body – #1 New York Times bestseller.
  • The 4-Hour Chef – #1 Wall Street Journal and New York Times bestseller; winner of a Gourmand “Best in the World” Award at the 18th Annual Paris Cookbook Awards.

Joe Rogan: http://podcasts.joerogan.net/

Bio: The Joe Rogan Experience podcast is a long form conversation hosted by comedian, UFC color commentator, and actor Joe Rogan with friends and guests that have included comedians, actors, musicians, MMA instructors and commentators, authors, artists, and porn stars. The Joe Rogan Experience was voted the Best Comedy Podcast of 2012 on iTunes. In addition online listening, fans can watch a videocast of the show live on Ustream or tune in on Sirius XM’s “The Virus” channel on Saturdays at Noon ET and Sundays at 5:00 AM and 6:00 PM ET.

 

Come Alive Be Alert and Show Vigor

I recently picked up an original print of The Strategy or Peace book by then Senator John F. Kennedy. It is a collection of foreign policy speeches, statements on global defense, peace, national security and related domestic issues for the United States during 1960.

Hang in there – this is not a political post as much as it is a mindset toward peace. Not global peace – yet the parallel to inner peace, struggle and self worth.

Chapter 27 – Are We Up to the Task – Washington D.C. January 1, 1960

Certainly it is time for change – time for us, in the words of Walter Lippman, “to come alive and to be alert and to show vigor, and not to keep mouthing the same old slogans, and not to dawdle along in the same old ruts.”

 

But the primary point is that, whether we like it or not, this is a time of change. As a people that set out to change the world, I think we should like it, however difficult the challenges. For no nation is at its best except under great challenge.

 

The question for us now is whether in a changing world we will respond in a way befitting “the land of the free and the home of the brave” – whether we will be at our best in these crucial years our world leadership – whether we will measure to the task awaiting us.

Let’s unpack this for a moment. Take out the politics and think about how these words can be applied to us personally. When under extreme adversity will you crumble or will you stand up to the task to build a better foundation for yourself? I am under some personal trials that have questioned the very fabric that I am built from. In these times – I have to look in the mirror and reflect…. Come alive and to be alert and to show vigor.

Cheers!

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

Show Me a Man Who Cannot Be Bothered – The Future of The Healthy Primate

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“Show me a man who cannot be bothered to do the little things and I will show you a man that cannot be trusted to do the big things.” Lawerence Dale

There have been many new and exciting things going on behind the scenes here at The Healthy Primate. It has caused me to pull the breaks back a bit to assure I can deliver on the core mission of why I started sharing this journey. A quick insight into some things that we are working on.

  1. Book Release – Stress Management
  2. Video Series to support the book
  3. Partnership with one of the leading fitness groups in the United States
  4. Possible brick and mortar location for a training facility
  5. Family, holidays, and daily life

I have 2 podcasts that are in edit from the past, these will be posted shortly. As the quote above states – are you willing and able to do the small things in your business that will lead to the biggest impact?

Cheers!

Kolby I The Healthy Primate

How Many “Likes” Does it Take to be Happy?

“Is your happiness dictated by the sheer number of likes, shares or comments we collect across social media?”

Why do we give so much validity to the acceptance of people we hardly know? If you look at the actual science of happiness you can tie some of the direct responses back to hedonic adaptation.

Ok big words but what in the hell does it really mean?

The Wikipedia break down:

Hedonic adaptation is a process or mechanism that reduces the affective impact of emotional events. Generally, hedonic adaptation involves a happiness “set point”, whereby humans generally maintain a constant level of happiness throughout their lives, despite events that occur in their environment. One of the main concerns of positive psychology is determining how to maintain or raise one’s happiness set point, and further, what kind of practices lead to lasting happiness.

We continually look for these small micro-bursts of interaction as some sort of acceptance. Acceptance creates a level of happiness. This acceptance is short lived, hence the reason we refresh the screen and keep checking our mobile devices by the minute. There is a better term known as the hedonic treadmill.

This desire, need and sometimes obsessiveness we have with checking our social media can be likened to a treadmill. We have great intentions to get in shape and we start walking. Setting the time, speed and resistance to a pace that we feel will generate results.

We build this false sense of need to continually check for updates. It sparks some level of immediate happiness, yet in the long run you will find yourself walking on a an emotional treadmill, simply moving your legs – yet going staying in place.

We are more than a series of algorithms on social media. We are deeper emotionally, spiritually and physically. There is a great quote from Socrates that I find draws parallel to this obsessive need and desire that social media produces.

“The unexamined life is not worth living” – Socrates

As we examine our own life, there is some sense of satisfaction when we hit that refresh button to see more people have agreed, appreciate or simply “like” what we have to say.

Cheers,

Kolby I The Healthy Primate

 

 

Are We Really All Connected?

Throughout the day we come in contact with dozens of people. From the emails, social media, work, commute and the stops along the way. One thing that I learned today through my “encounters” hence the image (if you can tell me the film reference I will give you a high five) is we are all connected. There is so much to learn, take and use in our personal development if we so choose to be aware.

Below is a snap shot of some of the people that made up my day and one thing I learned from each of them.

Chelsea Fine​ – You Have a Voice – and There is Someone Out There That Wants to Hear What You Have to Say

I had the chance to interview Chelsea for the radio show today. From freelance artist to an amazing author, mother and wife. She has this raw energy that powers through her in conversation. As we discussed the journey you can’t help but sit on the edge of your seat to hear what happens next. She is an amazing lady and powerhouse in her genre.

Brandon- It’s Good To Challenge Things, Be Calculated.

From his time at Apple, running into Steve Jobs in the cafeteria one day having lunch to dealing with hundreds of small business owners at Infusionsoft, he has a love for what he is doing. With two new babies and an awesome wife (her singing voice is amazing) he is looking for creative ways to grow and push the envelope doing what he loves and providing for his beautiful family.

Sustainable gardening my man – you are on to something. Keep pushing that direction.
Sean Mysel​ – Have an Opinion, It’s Alright to Ask For Help

I met Sean through a mutual friend who recommended we connect based on our sports background. Sean has this awesome talent of being able to tell compelling stories through words. His clients hire him to drive more business through marketing methodologies he deploys. Yet he draws you into things with his uncanny ability to pull you into the characters he shares. Side note his personal writings are killer and his posts crack me up.

We talk or message daily from 90s rock to feedback on work and clients. Dude is a stud and I am happy to call him a friend.

Kris Can​ – If You Have a Talent, People Will Be Interested

Kristen has a new upstart that is focused on baby accessories. Her stuff is killer and baby max is hooked already. She has this great personal network of business minded women, stay at home mothers and small business owners. We were discussing putting together a mastermind group where I can share the last 20 years of what I have learned in building business. IE. Defining your market, sizing the opportunity, building a business plan, design work, websites, marketing, social media, how to monetize your offering & raising funds.

I was going to charge for this, yet I have been given a a unique opportunity in life to be where I am. I want to share that at no cost, simply to help those who really are interested in doing something more.

More to come

Jennie Kay- Sleep is Over Rated, Mama Bears are the Strongest

It’s has been 3 weeks now and I would like to say the house is coming into order with Baby Max home. ERRRRR Wrong. She is operating on 2 hours of sleep intervals. Then the older kids have simply become assholes. I can say that on facebook right? It doesn’t have to be how great things are, can I share real shit?

She is in the middle of it all day and night. Her strength amazes me multiple times a day. She is the glue that holds this mess together. I am not sure what we did to deserve you baby, but we wouldn’t be here without you. We all love you so much.

As I close things down for the night it is amazing to think of all the kick ass people that have made my day just that much better. Tomorrow you will have these same chances with the people you encounter. How will there stories change you for the better?

Cheers!
Kolby I The Healthy Primate

The Road to Self Worth Has Over 2600 Miles

How do you define personal growth? Is it a series of self-help books, personal coaching, a long walk on the beach or simply a great workout? For one man it was a coast-to-coast hike and a camera to catalog each mile.

Photographer Andy Davidhazy recently hiked over 2,600 miles along the Pacific Crest Trail. The PCT trail leads from Mexico to Canada. Here is the catch – Andy took selfies at every mile along the way. This amazing journey took over 5 months to complete, 4.5 million steps, required 5 pairs of shoes and a guest appearance from some exciting wildlife.

After hiking 2600 miles from Mexico to Canada on the Pacific Crest Trail, a man discovers that life after a life-changing experience isn’t the change he planned for.

The end of the trail is the beginning of the story

 

 

Aside from the hike, you get to see the amazing transformation his body goes. Loosing 50 lbs and a multitude of beard mixtures, you get to see this happen frame by frame. The full journey and project can be viewed at Andy’s blog Lostorfound.org.

What are you doing to find your calling in life? The clock is ticking and today is the day to set your plan in motion.

Cheers!

Kolby I The Healthy Primate

Quote of the Day

“If you limit your choice only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is a compromise.” ~ Robert Fritz

In our podcast series we interview top athletes, industry experts & world class professionals. I ask the following two questions every week:

  • “Why do you think people don’t follow there dreams?
  • “What do you think holds people back?”

The answer we get almost every single time is one word – FEAR. People are afraid to take a risk to do what they love. They are afraid of the outcomes, afraid of failure, afraid of ridicule, afraid of acceptance.

This week what choices will you make that get you closer to doing what you love? How will you punch fear in the face?
Cheers,

The Healthy Primate

 

Power, Speed & Endurance – The Process w Coach Brian Mackenzie

In preparation for our 2 part series with Coach Brian Mackenzie, we release a small piece of our prep call. In this we discuss the thought process from his critically acclaimed book Power, Speed, Endurance – A Skill Based Approach to Endurance Training. In our interview series we cover Brian’s journey from following his dreams and how he has become world class as a trainer, athlete & author.

In part two of our section we cover the importance of breathing and feature live video of me doing intervals.

You can view more at www.thehealthyprimate.com

Brian Mackenzie:
NY Times Best Selling Author, Industry Expert in Functional Fitness, Competed in 30+ ultra marathons and his team hosts over 70 seminars a year. Thought leader in altitude training, coaching and kick ass athlete in his own right.

Coach Mackenzie is the creator of CrossFit Endurance, & 3Fu3l, and Author of Power Speed ENDURANCE: A Skill-Based Approach to Endurance Training & NYT Best Seller Unbreakable Runner: Unleash the Power of Strength & Conditioning for a Lifetime of Running Strong.

Direct Links:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Anaerobic
Instagram: https://instagram.com/iamunscared
Twitter: @iamunscared
CrossFit Endurance: http://crossfitendurance.com/
3 Fuel: http://www.3fu3l.com

Cheers,

The Healthy Primate