All posts in “Adversity”

I Was Wrong – Keeping Mistakes in Perspective

In my recent interview for the Risk Without Regret radio show, I discussed mistakes and how they had shaped my life. I want to add some additional context to making mistakes and where failure is necessary in our personal development.

To leave the road of continual failure, a person must first utter the three most difficult words to say; “I was wrong.”

I WAS WRONG!

You have to open your eyes, admit mistakes, and accept complete responsibility for the current wrong actions and attitudes.

Every failure you experience is a fork in the road. It’s and opportunity to take the right action, learn form your mistakes and begin again. Yet the key here is being able to identify that a mistake is simply that decision and experience. It does not have to define you!

“The better a man is, the more mistakes he will make, for the more new things he will try. I would never promote a top level person who was not making mistakes….otherwise they are sure to be mediocre.” – Leadership expert Peter Drucker


Mistakes really do pave the road to achievement

There is a great acronym that John C. Maxwell has created that is featured in his book – The Maxwell Daily Reader as well as Failing Forward

It helps keep mistakes into perspective.

  • M – messages that give us feedback about life
  • I – interruptions that should cause us to reflect and think
  • S – signposts that direct us to the right path
  • T – tests that push us towards greater maturity
  • A – awakenings that keep us in the game mentally
  • K – keys that we can use to unlock the next door of opportunity
  • E – explorations that let us journey where we’ve never been before
  • S – statements about our development and progress

We all make mistakes. It is how we get up, dust off and learn from these challenges that set the foundation of a life of learning and healing.

Today we have an extra day in the year – February 29th is yours. What will you do with it?
Cheers!
Kolby is The Healthy Primate

Risk Without Regret – My Story

Interview Click the image to listen to the podcast or click HERE

We all have a story. We all have had trials, failures and success of some kind.

I recently had the opportunity to sit down and tell my story on the Risk Without Regret radio show.

There is a reason I share this outside of self promotion. It’s for only one reason really – to show others that we all have to overcome adversity and we are all human. The choice of success and failure is ours and no one else.

You see for over a decade I was ashamed of my younger years and tried to hide them in hopes no one would bring it up.

But guess what? Those stories of my past made me who I am today.

And I am okay with who I am. Shit – I like who I am and where my life is.

But I had to own my past as part of the story and not be ashamed of it.

  • I grew up in a divorced home.
  • I slept on a mattress on the floor.
  • I was a juvenile delinquent who was in and out of the system.
  • I was a single dad.
  • I have been fired from jobs I liked
  • I lost both my parents, lost my source of income, had a major surgery and had a son born in the ICU all within 6 months of each other.

On the flip side of that I have built over 20 projects, business, raised 10 million in capital, helped hundreds of people overcome adversity, I am an author, renegade, lover and happy with who I am.

This is my story. Unfiltered. Unadulterated and OWED.

Today’s lesson – Own your story. Don’t be ashamed of who you are.

Cheers!

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

 

Come Alive Be Alert and Show Vigor

I recently picked up an original print of The Strategy or Peace book by then Senator John F. Kennedy. It is a collection of foreign policy speeches, statements on global defense, peace, national security and related domestic issues for the United States during 1960.

Hang in there – this is not a political post as much as it is a mindset toward peace. Not global peace – yet the parallel to inner peace, struggle and self worth.

Chapter 27 – Are We Up to the Task – Washington D.C. January 1, 1960

Certainly it is time for change – time for us, in the words of Walter Lippman, “to come alive and to be alert and to show vigor, and not to keep mouthing the same old slogans, and not to dawdle along in the same old ruts.”

 

But the primary point is that, whether we like it or not, this is a time of change. As a people that set out to change the world, I think we should like it, however difficult the challenges. For no nation is at its best except under great challenge.

 

The question for us now is whether in a changing world we will respond in a way befitting “the land of the free and the home of the brave” – whether we will be at our best in these crucial years our world leadership – whether we will measure to the task awaiting us.

Let’s unpack this for a moment. Take out the politics and think about how these words can be applied to us personally. When under extreme adversity will you crumble or will you stand up to the task to build a better foundation for yourself? I am under some personal trials that have questioned the very fabric that I am built from. In these times – I have to look in the mirror and reflect…. Come alive and to be alert and to show vigor.

Cheers!

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

Adversity and the Golden Chicken

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Adversity.

How do you overcome, cope and look it directly in the face?

How do you react?

What choice do you make?

Do you take the easy way out or do you push through and make the hard decision?

This weekend I had the opportunity to meet some amazing people. You see these people are just like you and I in more ways than not. They found a passion, a purpose and a tremendous will to succeed. When I say success, I don’t mean simply monetary or business gains. I mean personal success – let me explain.

Two stories with a similar out come. Two different set of circumstances. Two very different roads to recovery and roads in life.

Some of the images featured are from the recent Rush Club 007 fitness competition. I will cover that in more detail later this week. This story is about amazing people overcoming adversity.


 

One took place in the middle east on the first visit to Iraq. As soldiers went village to village to assist the local communities, the temperature in the air was not the most inviting from all. As his Hummer was en route to its next stop, they hit a IED or Improvised Explosive Device.

An improvised explosive device (IED) is a bomb constructed and deployed in ways other than in conventional military action. It may be constructed of conventional military explosives, such as an artillery round, attached to a detonating mechanism. IEDs are commonly used as roadside bombs.

This IED dismantled the Hummer leaving this soldier without use of his leg. He went back in to help his crew members and when he pulled the door open was hit with another IED. The trauma from this event left this soldier without his leg.

That hero’s name is Michael Gallardo.

The Hummer that Mike was in:

Hummer 1

Mike


In June 2007, while on his third Iraq tour with the 82nd Airborne Division, he was met by a burst of gunfire as he led his men into an insurgent-filled house during a nighttime raid on the outskirts of Baghdad.

“One second I was moving forward, the other second I was looking up,” he said. “It was kind of weird, because I didn’t even know where I had gotten shot.”

He had taken a bullet through his right knee, he endured several months of failed surgeries and physical therapy at Walter Reed Army Medical Center before doctors sent him home to Minnesota for recovery and more operations.

This Army veteran who served three tours in Iraq with the 82nd Airborne Division, credits fitness with helping him break out of severe depression after an insurgent’s bullet ended his Army career. (Credit www.stripes.com)

This hero’s name is Derek Weida. 

 

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You see these two gentleman are amazing people who have taken a situation and used that to help others, become strong and to set an example. So when the alarm goes off at 5AM to go run, you think I have any excuse that will ever beat what these hero’s have gone through?

The answer is HELL NO!

So tomorrow when you are looking for reasons to not do the things that will make you better – remember these stories, and build your own legacy!

You can find Mike and Derek below

Mike Gallardo

Derek Weida

Cheers,

Kolby is The Healy Primate

Show Me a Man Who Cannot Be Bothered – The Future of The Healthy Primate

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“Show me a man who cannot be bothered to do the little things and I will show you a man that cannot be trusted to do the big things.” Lawerence Dale

There have been many new and exciting things going on behind the scenes here at The Healthy Primate. It has caused me to pull the breaks back a bit to assure I can deliver on the core mission of why I started sharing this journey. A quick insight into some things that we are working on.

  1. Book Release – Stress Management
  2. Video Series to support the book
  3. Partnership with one of the leading fitness groups in the United States
  4. Possible brick and mortar location for a training facility
  5. Family, holidays, and daily life

I have 2 podcasts that are in edit from the past, these will be posted shortly. As the quote above states – are you willing and able to do the small things in your business that will lead to the biggest impact?

Cheers!

Kolby I The Healthy Primate

How Stress Affects Your Brain & What You Can Do About It Today

When I started this journey now almost two years ago, a glaring health risk presented itself. It was one thing to loose weight and get myself physically in a better place, it was quite the other trying to understand why I was still so anxious. After meeting with a few friends who are experts in the space of stress management, it was clear to me what the next stage of my life was to become.

Immersing myself  into understanding the science behind stress consumed me. Now let me be clear about a few things.

  1. I am by no means a Yogi now
  2. I still get stressed and freak out
  3. My wife thinks I am insane

But what I am – is educated on understanding why my body and mind does what it does and how I can control aspects of it without medication or having a damn heart attack.

If you have followed The Healthy Primate and the journey of the site, you will see three distinct commonalities. I focus on Mind, Body & Soul. This has been done on purpose as you see that was the order I focused on and cataloged in my personal journey to becoming a better person.

  • Mind: Understand the ways to reduce stress, increase cognitive thought and being fully aware of your potential.
  • Body: If you are overweight and missing physical activity, your mind and systems will respond accordingly. From food, exercise to thoughts and process to make your physical self the best it can be. This will allow the Mind to reach heights un measured before.
  • Soul: The center of it all is finding that balance, happiness and reaching your full potential. When the mind is right, you can focus on the body. When the mind & body are right – your inner balance comes into play.
  • Bonus: When we are in balance we will have thoughts to reach the things we truly want to do in life. Start that business you been pondering, quit the shit job you have been shlepping to for years, build a healthier relationship with those in your life from friends to family.

 

The mind is such a complicated technology that we often take for granted. At the core of it all has been my studies on Cortisol as a stressor. The following video is a great explanation of what is happening in your mind when fall under stress for small and long periods of time.

The presentation mentions exercise & meditation as the route to reduce and control cortisol.

 

As I journaled 16 months of blood work centered on Cortisol management I recommend a few additional tools that will help tremendously. I cover this in detail in my up coming book that will be released in January 2016.

Why Your Life is Killing You  – My Journey to Reducing Stress and Living to Tell About It. 

 

 

Here are the top three natural supplements that you can take that will reduce your cortisol dramatically. You can get these at your local natural healthy food shop IE Sprouts or online.

  1. Ashwagandha: Ashwagandha, an exotic Indian herb, has remarkable stress-relieving properties comparable to those of powerful drugs used to treat depression and anxiety. In addition to its excellent protective effects on the nervous system, ashwagandha may be a promising alternative treatment for a variety of degenerative diseases such as Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s. Ashwagandha has powerful antioxidant properties that seek and destroy the free radicals that have been implicated in aging and numerous disease states. Even more remarkable, emerging evidence suggests that ashwagandha has anti-cancer benefits as well. (Source)
  2. Rhodiola-rosea: Rhodiola significantly reduces the effects of prolonged and minor physical exhaustion that results in fatigue. This is more related to stress and the ‘burnout’ effect, or prolonged but low intensity physical exercise. (Source)
  3. Kava Kava: Kava has a calming effect, producing brain wave changes similar to changes that occur with calming medicines such as diazepam (Valium, for example). Kava also can prevent convulsions and relax muscles. Although kava is not addictive, its effect may decrease with use. Traditionally prepared as a tea, kava root is also available as a dietary supplement in powder and tincture (extract in alcohol) forms. ( Source )

                                   *As always consult with your Dr. when taking supplements.

In combination of education, understanding and taking action you really can change the outputs and way your mind and body deal and process stress. Thank you as always for reading!

Cheers,

The Healthy Primate

Fear – HELP! I Can’t Breathe

Where is it that we find the most growth? It is not from doing what we always do or staying in our comfort zones. It almost always happens at the point of a personal challenge. As most of you know I am 13 weeks into recovery from a major shoulder surgery. In this we found numerous complications so my physical activity for the past 3 months has been almost non existent. I share this for one reason only – FEAR!

I have the opportunity to attend an exclusive breathing clinic being held by one of my favorite practitioners, Coach Brian Mackenzie.  To top it off he is having Mr. Wim Hof as the special guest for the all day session. If you do not know Wim, please watch the quick video below. He is the global leader in breathing technics to improve athletics, stress reduction and healing.

I don’t mean some late night infomercial scam, I mean the guy has worked with the scientific leaders from around the world to validate, measure and document his approach.

Did I mention that I am scared? Afraid – like my stomach is nervous as hell to attend and participate. Needless to say, this journey is for me and the things I will learn will be un measurable in value. As much as this post is about the importance of breathing, it is more so on overcoming your fear to find growth. Today – challenge yourself to do something uncomfortable.

More to come when I return from the experience.

Cheers!

Kolby I The Healthy Primate

Camp

Event Overview:

The ability to breathe is something that most people take for granted until they are in a situation when breathing becomes difficult.  Whether its induced by stress or health issues, restricted by water or metabolic capacity, all of us have been to that place where we realize we are limited by our ability to breathe.  What if you could learn how to be a better breather and open up more athletic, health and all around wellness as a result?

This camp is for anyone that wants to learn more about breathing, open up more athletic potential towards breathing, learn how to deal with stress, increase recoverability, and have a better overall awareness of you’re ability.

Direct Link:http://athletecell.com/product/breathing-performance-camp/

Who is Wif Hof and why should you care?

 

Find a Way

QOTD-Excuses

“If you really want something, you will find a way. If you don’t, you will find an excuse.”

I have been on both sides of this statement. From hitting the snooze button to being first up and out when the sun is still down.

From the new job, relationships, loosing weight or simply getting healthy – If you want something you will find a way.

As you head into the day today, think of what you are striving for and push excuses out of the way to make it happen.

Cheers,

Kolby I The Healthy Primate

Quote of the Day

QOTD-Martin-

“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” -Martin Luther King Jr.

Cheers!
The Healthy Primate

Are We Really All Connected?

Throughout the day we come in contact with dozens of people. From the emails, social media, work, commute and the stops along the way. One thing that I learned today through my “encounters” hence the image (if you can tell me the film reference I will give you a high five) is we are all connected. There is so much to learn, take and use in our personal development if we so choose to be aware.

Below is a snap shot of some of the people that made up my day and one thing I learned from each of them.

Chelsea Fine​ – You Have a Voice – and There is Someone Out There That Wants to Hear What You Have to Say

I had the chance to interview Chelsea for the radio show today. From freelance artist to an amazing author, mother and wife. She has this raw energy that powers through her in conversation. As we discussed the journey you can’t help but sit on the edge of your seat to hear what happens next. She is an amazing lady and powerhouse in her genre.

Brandon- It’s Good To Challenge Things, Be Calculated.

From his time at Apple, running into Steve Jobs in the cafeteria one day having lunch to dealing with hundreds of small business owners at Infusionsoft, he has a love for what he is doing. With two new babies and an awesome wife (her singing voice is amazing) he is looking for creative ways to grow and push the envelope doing what he loves and providing for his beautiful family.

Sustainable gardening my man – you are on to something. Keep pushing that direction.
Sean Mysel​ – Have an Opinion, It’s Alright to Ask For Help

I met Sean through a mutual friend who recommended we connect based on our sports background. Sean has this awesome talent of being able to tell compelling stories through words. His clients hire him to drive more business through marketing methodologies he deploys. Yet he draws you into things with his uncanny ability to pull you into the characters he shares. Side note his personal writings are killer and his posts crack me up.

We talk or message daily from 90s rock to feedback on work and clients. Dude is a stud and I am happy to call him a friend.

Kris Can​ – If You Have a Talent, People Will Be Interested

Kristen has a new upstart that is focused on baby accessories. Her stuff is killer and baby max is hooked already. She has this great personal network of business minded women, stay at home mothers and small business owners. We were discussing putting together a mastermind group where I can share the last 20 years of what I have learned in building business. IE. Defining your market, sizing the opportunity, building a business plan, design work, websites, marketing, social media, how to monetize your offering & raising funds.

I was going to charge for this, yet I have been given a a unique opportunity in life to be where I am. I want to share that at no cost, simply to help those who really are interested in doing something more.

More to come

Jennie Kay- Sleep is Over Rated, Mama Bears are the Strongest

It’s has been 3 weeks now and I would like to say the house is coming into order with Baby Max home. ERRRRR Wrong. She is operating on 2 hours of sleep intervals. Then the older kids have simply become assholes. I can say that on facebook right? It doesn’t have to be how great things are, can I share real shit?

She is in the middle of it all day and night. Her strength amazes me multiple times a day. She is the glue that holds this mess together. I am not sure what we did to deserve you baby, but we wouldn’t be here without you. We all love you so much.

As I close things down for the night it is amazing to think of all the kick ass people that have made my day just that much better. Tomorrow you will have these same chances with the people you encounter. How will there stories change you for the better?

Cheers!
Kolby I The Healthy Primate