All posts in “Soul”

Are We All Really That Different?

After an amazing few weeks at our London office things came to an apex in the final hours. It included key notes and time with Mr. Gary Vaynerchuck, two award winning Ted Talk speakers, a NY Times Best Selling Author and a social media disruptor with over 30 million imprints.

I find myself jumping into a car headed to the airport to catch a flight back to the states. Head a bit groggy from only 3 hours of sleep and a few pints. Needless to say I was in rare form.

The last thing I wanted to do was talk to the driver. But I am not a complete ass so I obliged. 45 minutes later we were sharing a high five as I unload my luggage from the trunk of his Prius – then it hits me.

He was sharing stories of all the different people he has met and how similar we all are….

In 15 days I have met well over 75 people from various walks of life.

So often when we meet others we look for the difference versus the similarities.

When have you judged or made a premature  first impression when you met someone? Race, economic status, sex, age…..

What happens when we focus on our similarities versus how we are different?

When we look for the similarities when meeting someone versus looking at the differences we put down first impressions and see how similar we all are.
Kolby was here – now I’m on a plane! — at Heathrow Airport.

Messages of Empowered Dads! The Stories of Shit , Growth & Impact

Being a parent is hard work. Being a father is hard.
Being a father and empowering your children is what makes fatherhood great.

We all struggle with parenthood. From discipline to motivating and having healthy relationships with our children.

From single father, to getting remarried and having children, I share stories and thoughts with some of my favorite people. In this video series I am joined by two subject matter experts in a round table.

If you are a mother, father or are thinking about having children, this is for you.

CLICK THE ABOVE TO WATCH THE VIDEO

Topics we cover:

  • Raising Empowered Children
  • Accepting the Challenge of Parenthood
  • The Importance of Healthy  and Natural Consequences
  • How Do we Cope with the Decisions we Make for our Children now and in the Future….
    and so much more. ….

One is a powerhouse and a pure ball of raw energy. Crystal Wells

The other is a world class speaker and founder of the Awaken Hero project, Jason S. Moore who has been featured on The Healthy Primate

Crystal Wells: FACEBOOK
Jason S Moore: FACEBBOOK 

This is a powerful conversation that you won’t want to miss!

Cheers,
Kolby Kolibas is The Healthy Primate

Risk Without Regret – My Story

Interview Click the image to listen to the podcast or click HERE

We all have a story. We all have had trials, failures and success of some kind.

I recently had the opportunity to sit down and tell my story on the Risk Without Regret radio show.

There is a reason I share this outside of self promotion. It’s for only one reason really – to show others that we all have to overcome adversity and we are all human. The choice of success and failure is ours and no one else.

You see for over a decade I was ashamed of my younger years and tried to hide them in hopes no one would bring it up.

But guess what? Those stories of my past made me who I am today.

And I am okay with who I am. Shit – I like who I am and where my life is.

But I had to own my past as part of the story and not be ashamed of it.

  • I grew up in a divorced home.
  • I slept on a mattress on the floor.
  • I was a juvenile delinquent who was in and out of the system.
  • I was a single dad.
  • I have been fired from jobs I liked
  • I lost both my parents, lost my source of income, had a major surgery and had a son born in the ICU all within 6 months of each other.

On the flip side of that I have built over 20 projects, business, raised 10 million in capital, helped hundreds of people overcome adversity, I am an author, renegade, lover and happy with who I am.

This is my story. Unfiltered. Unadulterated and OWED.

Today’s lesson – Own your story. Don’t be ashamed of who you are.

Cheers!

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

 

Our Daily Struggles & The Universe at Large

Marcus Aurelius – Meditations

“Reflect on how many separate events, both bodily and mental, are taking place in each one of us in the same tiny fragment of time: and then you will not be surprised if many more events, indeed all that come to pass, subsist together in the one and the whole, which we call the universe.

 

We all have a series of things happening at any given time. From the stress of work, family and finance – to the weight of simple daily responsibility. At any given time we will often have such an assortment of feeling and emotion all happening simultaneously.

When we put that into perspective – there is a great parallel that is drawn between the personal chaos we create and the multiple facets that are all happening outside our reach in the greater universe.

It makes you wonder how we are all connected and the reach into things bigger than ourselves.

Have a great weekend!

Cheers,

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

Come Alive Be Alert and Show Vigor

I recently picked up an original print of The Strategy or Peace book by then Senator John F. Kennedy. It is a collection of foreign policy speeches, statements on global defense, peace, national security and related domestic issues for the United States during 1960.

Hang in there – this is not a political post as much as it is a mindset toward peace. Not global peace – yet the parallel to inner peace, struggle and self worth.

Chapter 27 – Are We Up to the Task – Washington D.C. January 1, 1960

Certainly it is time for change – time for us, in the words of Walter Lippman, “to come alive and to be alert and to show vigor, and not to keep mouthing the same old slogans, and not to dawdle along in the same old ruts.”

 

But the primary point is that, whether we like it or not, this is a time of change. As a people that set out to change the world, I think we should like it, however difficult the challenges. For no nation is at its best except under great challenge.

 

The question for us now is whether in a changing world we will respond in a way befitting “the land of the free and the home of the brave” – whether we will be at our best in these crucial years our world leadership – whether we will measure to the task awaiting us.

Let’s unpack this for a moment. Take out the politics and think about how these words can be applied to us personally. When under extreme adversity will you crumble or will you stand up to the task to build a better foundation for yourself? I am under some personal trials that have questioned the very fabric that I am built from. In these times – I have to look in the mirror and reflect…. Come alive and to be alert and to show vigor.

Cheers!

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

Adversity and the Golden Chicken

Stage Side - Derek


Adversity.

How do you overcome, cope and look it directly in the face?

How do you react?

What choice do you make?

Do you take the easy way out or do you push through and make the hard decision?

This weekend I had the opportunity to meet some amazing people. You see these people are just like you and I in more ways than not. They found a passion, a purpose and a tremendous will to succeed. When I say success, I don’t mean simply monetary or business gains. I mean personal success – let me explain.

Two stories with a similar out come. Two different set of circumstances. Two very different roads to recovery and roads in life.

Some of the images featured are from the recent Rush Club 007 fitness competition. I will cover that in more detail later this week. This story is about amazing people overcoming adversity.


 

One took place in the middle east on the first visit to Iraq. As soldiers went village to village to assist the local communities, the temperature in the air was not the most inviting from all. As his Hummer was en route to its next stop, they hit a IED or Improvised Explosive Device.

An improvised explosive device (IED) is a bomb constructed and deployed in ways other than in conventional military action. It may be constructed of conventional military explosives, such as an artillery round, attached to a detonating mechanism. IEDs are commonly used as roadside bombs.

This IED dismantled the Hummer leaving this soldier without use of his leg. He went back in to help his crew members and when he pulled the door open was hit with another IED. The trauma from this event left this soldier without his leg.

That hero’s name is Michael Gallardo.

The Hummer that Mike was in:

Hummer 1

Mike


In June 2007, while on his third Iraq tour with the 82nd Airborne Division, he was met by a burst of gunfire as he led his men into an insurgent-filled house during a nighttime raid on the outskirts of Baghdad.

“One second I was moving forward, the other second I was looking up,” he said. “It was kind of weird, because I didn’t even know where I had gotten shot.”

He had taken a bullet through his right knee, he endured several months of failed surgeries and physical therapy at Walter Reed Army Medical Center before doctors sent him home to Minnesota for recovery and more operations.

This Army veteran who served three tours in Iraq with the 82nd Airborne Division, credits fitness with helping him break out of severe depression after an insurgent’s bullet ended his Army career. (Credit www.stripes.com)

This hero’s name is Derek Weida. 

 

Derek 2

DEREK 1


 

You see these two gentleman are amazing people who have taken a situation and used that to help others, become strong and to set an example. So when the alarm goes off at 5AM to go run, you think I have any excuse that will ever beat what these hero’s have gone through?

The answer is HELL NO!

So tomorrow when you are looking for reasons to not do the things that will make you better – remember these stories, and build your own legacy!

You can find Mike and Derek below

Mike Gallardo

Derek Weida

Cheers,

Kolby is The Healy Primate

Clearly Define the Person You Want to Be

Clearly Define the Person You Want to Be

“Who exactly do you want to be? What kind of person do you want to be? What are your personal ideals? Whom do you admire? What are their special traits that you would make your own?”

“It’s time to stop being vague. If you wish to be an extraordinary person, if you wish to be wise, then you should explicitly identify the kind of person you aspire to become. If you have a daybook, write down who are trying to be, so that you can refer to this self- definition. Precisely describe the demeanor you want to adopt so that you may preserve it when you are by yourself or with other people.”  – The Art of Living by Epictetus


Over the past 40 years I have gone through many personal changes. Who I wanted to be and who I became have been through an evolution. You know the cool thing – You can be and do what ever you want at any age. I know it sounds like a card you would get a high school graduation, but it is true.

Start with a simple list. Grab a pen and piece of paper. Write down 10 traits that you like most about the people in your life.

Why do you like these attributes?

What makes them so special?

Highlight or circle the words that you would like to add to your character when people ask about you.

Love, forgiveness, strength, happy, intelligent, driven, beautiful……..

You are what you practice and can be anything you set your mind to becoming.
Have a great weekend!

Cheers,

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

 

 

Emotions Are A Habit – Get The Funk Out!

Tony Robbins 1

 

We all get into a funk. All of us have a day where we wish we never got out of bed. Or the flip side, can’t wait to get back to bed and start over. For years I battled depression. It was something that would take over and for days it would be hard for me to leave the house. Over time these behaviors and mental triggers became a habit.

One day I woke up from the middle of a dark place and said – NO MORE. I no longer accepted a stage of unhappiness as a place I needed to reside. Now i’m not saying that all of the sudden magic “mindset” fairy made things better. I had to find ways to bring happiness as I had forgotten what it meant to be happy.

I made a list of the things that I like doing.

Surfing, Swimming, Gym, Sun, Family, Art, Music, Exploring, Long Drives on my Motorcycle…………..

When I fall into a funk, depression or level of discontent I revert to one of the things I know will kick of the chemical in my brain that makes me happy. FYI that chemical is serotonin.

Being unhappy doesn’t need to become a habit.

Click the image to see a great 2 minute video from Tony Robbins on his thoughts on how to get out of a funk. 

Remember:

  • You get what you tolerate
  • Don’t settle
  • Find a bigger reason to exist- Motive Matters!
  • Habits don’t need to control you
  • You don’t need to stay in a stage of unhappiness.
  • Train yourself to be passionate
  • Train yourself to be strong

Together we can get out of this life alive, happy and in a state where we care about those around us.

Cheers!

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

Make Full Use of What Happens to You

“Every difficulty in life presents us with an opportunity to turn inward and to invoke our own submerged resources. The Trials we endure can and should introduce us to our strengths.” The Art of Living, By Epictetus

We are headed into the second week of the new year. Many of us set goals, objectives and reasons to make this 2016 something special. Did you plan to spend more time with your family? Was it a financial goal? Was it simply to be more happy?

What kind of traction are you gaining in setting these goals on auto pilot? How are you using the trials from the past as strengths and learning pillars for the future?

I just landed in Salt Lake City Utah for a week long adventure. You see one goal I have set for 2016 is to focus on the areas that brandish results versus spreading myself thin. One of the other goals is to do more of what I love. And like many – I have a financial goal.

I am aiming to hit three birds with one stone. I have taken on the responsibility of building a sales and marketing team for a kick ass technology company named UK2 – 100TB. The new roads are open – and I am taking full advantage! The above image is my drive over the snowy canyon – into the unknown, and I couldn’t be more excited.

Cheers,

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

Self Mastery Depends on Self Honesty

“Know first who you are and what you’re capable of.” – Epictetus

Just as nothing great is created instantly, the same goes for the perfecting of our talents and aptitudes. We are always learning, always growing. It is right to accept challenges. This is how we progress to the next level of intellectual, physical, or moral development. Still, don’t kid yourself: If you try to be something or someone you are not, you belittle your true self and end up not developing in those areas that you would have excelled at quite naturally.

Within the divine order, we each have our own special calling. Listen to yours and follow it faithfully.

The above comes from one of my favorite books, The Art of Living by the Stoic – Epictetus.


 

With the road to 2016 now only 2 days away, I couldn’t help but personally reflect on the above passage. The areas I have found the most personal growth is when I started caring less of what others would think, and focused on myself and others in my life that really mater.

We all have our own personal calling. Are you listening? Make today great.

Cheers,

Kolby is The Healthy Primate