Archive for “February, 2016”

I Was Wrong – Keeping Mistakes in Perspective

In my recent interview for the Risk Without Regret radio show, I discussed mistakes and how they had shaped my life. I want to add some additional context to making mistakes and where failure is necessary in our personal development.

To leave the road of continual failure, a person must first utter the three most difficult words to say; “I was wrong.”

I WAS WRONG!

You have to open your eyes, admit mistakes, and accept complete responsibility for the current wrong actions and attitudes.

Every failure you experience is a fork in the road. It’s and opportunity to take the right action, learn form your mistakes and begin again. Yet the key here is being able to identify that a mistake is simply that decision and experience. It does not have to define you!

“The better a man is, the more mistakes he will make, for the more new things he will try. I would never promote a top level person who was not making mistakes….otherwise they are sure to be mediocre.” – Leadership expert Peter Drucker


Mistakes really do pave the road to achievement

There is a great acronym that John C. Maxwell has created that is featured in his book – The Maxwell Daily Reader as well as Failing Forward

It helps keep mistakes into perspective.

  • M – messages that give us feedback about life
  • I – interruptions that should cause us to reflect and think
  • S – signposts that direct us to the right path
  • T – tests that push us towards greater maturity
  • A – awakenings that keep us in the game mentally
  • K – keys that we can use to unlock the next door of opportunity
  • E – explorations that let us journey where we’ve never been before
  • S – statements about our development and progress

We all make mistakes. It is how we get up, dust off and learn from these challenges that set the foundation of a life of learning and healing.

Today we have an extra day in the year – February 29th is yours. What will you do with it?
Cheers!
Kolby is The Healthy Primate

Risk Without Regret – My Story

Interview Click the image to listen to the podcast or click HERE

We all have a story. We all have had trials, failures and success of some kind.

I recently had the opportunity to sit down and tell my story on the Risk Without Regret radio show.

There is a reason I share this outside of self promotion. It’s for only one reason really – to show others that we all have to overcome adversity and we are all human. The choice of success and failure is ours and no one else.

You see for over a decade I was ashamed of my younger years and tried to hide them in hopes no one would bring it up.

But guess what? Those stories of my past made me who I am today.

And I am okay with who I am. Shit – I like who I am and where my life is.

But I had to own my past as part of the story and not be ashamed of it.

  • I grew up in a divorced home.
  • I slept on a mattress on the floor.
  • I was a juvenile delinquent who was in and out of the system.
  • I was a single dad.
  • I have been fired from jobs I liked
  • I lost both my parents, lost my source of income, had a major surgery and had a son born in the ICU all within 6 months of each other.

On the flip side of that I have built over 20 projects, business, raised 10 million in capital, helped hundreds of people overcome adversity, I am an author, renegade, lover and happy with who I am.

This is my story. Unfiltered. Unadulterated and OWED.

Today’s lesson – Own your story. Don’t be ashamed of who you are.

Cheers!

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

 

How Sitting on My Ass for an Hour Made Me Smarter

Time management is traditionally brought up when we think of how we manage the tasks we are faced with in our daily routine. This can be manifested through action items at the office, to the things we need to get done at the house.

One area that is often over looked when discussing time management comes in the way of “down time”.  I don’t mean the time you would spend vacationing, sleeping or the space in between tasks. I am talking about one of my favorite times – the time I am in my car for my office commute.

In my day I can often be in the car between 45 minutes to an hour both coming and going to the office. That is 2 hours of time that I am sitting, at attention – waiting! I have to be honest, I hated that time and refused to enjoy it for a long time. As a matter of fact, you could find me complaining about the drive often.

I have ADHD and sitting for any period of time is not something I enjoy or have the attention to manage successfully. There were times I am sure the car next to me thought I was going to jump out and run home if I had to brave another minute of stop and go.

Then something changed. It wasn’t premeditated or even something I can take credit for doing on purpose.

I started listening to podcasts, interviews and audio files in the car. The next thing you know; I was looking forward to the drive as an opportunity to learn. Everything from how to make my own chocolate, how to stretch my own canvas, self improvement, workout ideas, how to speed read, marketing ideas, how to start a business using social media……ETC. The list goes on and on and on. The cool thing about knowledge – there is always something to learn and an avenue to find it.

So this once dreaded time sitting in the car, has now turned into time I can use for myself and for learning.

There are times I will find myself pulling into the house waiting a few minutes just to get the last piece or point before going inside. Who would have thought!

From the billionaire mogul to the stay at home mom, there is one thing that we all share…….

TIME

How can you use yours more effectively?

Cheers!

Kolby is The Healthy Primate


If you want a place to start here are a few podcasts that I really enjoy.

Tim Ferriss: http://fourhourworkweek.com/podcast/

Bio: Timothy Ferriss has been listed as one of Fast Company’s “Most Innovative Business People”, Forbes Magazine’s “Names You Need to Know,” and is the 7th “most powerful” personality on Newsweek’s Digital 100 Power Index for 2012. He is an angel investor/advisor (Uber, Facebook, Twitter, Evernote, and 20+ more) and author of the following books:

  • The 4-Hour Workweek – Sold into 35+ languages, #1 New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and BusinessWeek bestseller.
  • The 4-Hour Body – #1 New York Times bestseller.
  • The 4-Hour Chef – #1 Wall Street Journal and New York Times bestseller; winner of a Gourmand “Best in the World” Award at the 18th Annual Paris Cookbook Awards.

Joe Rogan: http://podcasts.joerogan.net/

Bio: The Joe Rogan Experience podcast is a long form conversation hosted by comedian, UFC color commentator, and actor Joe Rogan with friends and guests that have included comedians, actors, musicians, MMA instructors and commentators, authors, artists, and porn stars. The Joe Rogan Experience was voted the Best Comedy Podcast of 2012 on iTunes. In addition online listening, fans can watch a videocast of the show live on Ustream or tune in on Sirius XM’s “The Virus” channel on Saturdays at Noon ET and Sundays at 5:00 AM and 6:00 PM ET.

 

Our Daily Struggles & The Universe at Large

Marcus Aurelius – Meditations

“Reflect on how many separate events, both bodily and mental, are taking place in each one of us in the same tiny fragment of time: and then you will not be surprised if many more events, indeed all that come to pass, subsist together in the one and the whole, which we call the universe.

 

We all have a series of things happening at any given time. From the stress of work, family and finance – to the weight of simple daily responsibility. At any given time we will often have such an assortment of feeling and emotion all happening simultaneously.

When we put that into perspective – there is a great parallel that is drawn between the personal chaos we create and the multiple facets that are all happening outside our reach in the greater universe.

It makes you wonder how we are all connected and the reach into things bigger than ourselves.

Have a great weekend!

Cheers,

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

Come Alive Be Alert and Show Vigor

I recently picked up an original print of The Strategy or Peace book by then Senator John F. Kennedy. It is a collection of foreign policy speeches, statements on global defense, peace, national security and related domestic issues for the United States during 1960.

Hang in there – this is not a political post as much as it is a mindset toward peace. Not global peace – yet the parallel to inner peace, struggle and self worth.

Chapter 27 – Are We Up to the Task – Washington D.C. January 1, 1960

Certainly it is time for change – time for us, in the words of Walter Lippman, “to come alive and to be alert and to show vigor, and not to keep mouthing the same old slogans, and not to dawdle along in the same old ruts.”

 

But the primary point is that, whether we like it or not, this is a time of change. As a people that set out to change the world, I think we should like it, however difficult the challenges. For no nation is at its best except under great challenge.

 

The question for us now is whether in a changing world we will respond in a way befitting “the land of the free and the home of the brave” – whether we will be at our best in these crucial years our world leadership – whether we will measure to the task awaiting us.

Let’s unpack this for a moment. Take out the politics and think about how these words can be applied to us personally. When under extreme adversity will you crumble or will you stand up to the task to build a better foundation for yourself? I am under some personal trials that have questioned the very fabric that I am built from. In these times – I have to look in the mirror and reflect…. Come alive and to be alert and to show vigor.

Cheers!

Kolby is The Healthy Primate

 

Adversity and the Golden Chicken

Stage Side - Derek


Adversity.

How do you overcome, cope and look it directly in the face?

How do you react?

What choice do you make?

Do you take the easy way out or do you push through and make the hard decision?

This weekend I had the opportunity to meet some amazing people. You see these people are just like you and I in more ways than not. They found a passion, a purpose and a tremendous will to succeed. When I say success, I don’t mean simply monetary or business gains. I mean personal success – let me explain.

Two stories with a similar out come. Two different set of circumstances. Two very different roads to recovery and roads in life.

Some of the images featured are from the recent Rush Club 007 fitness competition. I will cover that in more detail later this week. This story is about amazing people overcoming adversity.


 

One took place in the middle east on the first visit to Iraq. As soldiers went village to village to assist the local communities, the temperature in the air was not the most inviting from all. As his Hummer was en route to its next stop, they hit a IED or Improvised Explosive Device.

An improvised explosive device (IED) is a bomb constructed and deployed in ways other than in conventional military action. It may be constructed of conventional military explosives, such as an artillery round, attached to a detonating mechanism. IEDs are commonly used as roadside bombs.

This IED dismantled the Hummer leaving this soldier without use of his leg. He went back in to help his crew members and when he pulled the door open was hit with another IED. The trauma from this event left this soldier without his leg.

That hero’s name is Michael Gallardo.

The Hummer that Mike was in:

Hummer 1

Mike


In June 2007, while on his third Iraq tour with the 82nd Airborne Division, he was met by a burst of gunfire as he led his men into an insurgent-filled house during a nighttime raid on the outskirts of Baghdad.

“One second I was moving forward, the other second I was looking up,” he said. “It was kind of weird, because I didn’t even know where I had gotten shot.”

He had taken a bullet through his right knee, he endured several months of failed surgeries and physical therapy at Walter Reed Army Medical Center before doctors sent him home to Minnesota for recovery and more operations.

This Army veteran who served three tours in Iraq with the 82nd Airborne Division, credits fitness with helping him break out of severe depression after an insurgent’s bullet ended his Army career. (Credit www.stripes.com)

This hero’s name is Derek Weida. 

 

Derek 2

DEREK 1


 

You see these two gentleman are amazing people who have taken a situation and used that to help others, become strong and to set an example. So when the alarm goes off at 5AM to go run, you think I have any excuse that will ever beat what these hero’s have gone through?

The answer is HELL NO!

So tomorrow when you are looking for reasons to not do the things that will make you better – remember these stories, and build your own legacy!

You can find Mike and Derek below

Mike Gallardo

Derek Weida

Cheers,

Kolby is The Healy Primate