Take a “spiritual” journey with me for a moment as we look to find salvation for our sins.
People of any financial wherewithal’s can contribute to experience some aspect of redemption. You see in this story the evangelist has no prejudice for one thing all followers share – the color GREEN.Enters Jill – She is a single mother from Phoenix Arizona working two jobs to assure her 3 year old son Elijah and 6 year old daughter Faith can prosper from more than the Arizona summer. Every Sunday she hears the same story and starts to think that her struggles are unique and the pastor is speaking directly to her. As the tithe basket is passed in front of her she takes out a neatly folded $10 dollar bill and tucks it in with a tear and prayer. That money had to last her and the kids until next week. Don’t worry Jill – The Lord will provide.
Enters Will from San Diego California. Will comes from a broken home and has often found comfort at the local strip club. He works an honest living pushing for that corner office of the local real estate branch where he spends over 60 hours a week. He sees people around him in the new BMW and knows he is so close to achieving this monetary success he so desires. He starts looking online and finds a group that has the same drive and passion to do more. Daily he reads the posts of “find yourself” “you can be great” “manifest your success”. This group meets every week at a local church to discuss in more depth and share other stories of people just like Will. All he has to do is contribute to the tithe and he can join the others at the opportunity to “achieve his potential”.
Both people in this story have a chance for their slice of redemption, love, motivation and the self worth they both desire. Shit they owe it to themselves! All they have to do is sacrifice a small contribution, green backs, bills, dinero, clams, MONEY!
Do it for the prosperity. You know, the Prosperity Gospel that any donation you make to God will increase your own material wealth in some opportunity in the future.
- Give me your money and you will be healed
- Man up and you can do this
- Do some epic shit and think epic thoughts
- Who cares about your mental and emotional strength, it’s only money
- Give me your money and something great will happen
- Trust me I am a professional
Who am I talking about here? Is it the gold chain wearing southern Baptist reverend? Is it the 60 year old white man with salt and pepper hair? Is it the couple from Texas with the great tan asking you to forget about your cancer and simply send us money – god will provide?
Take out the
pastors, priests and reverends. Replace them with self proclaimed – Self Help Experts, Motivational Coaches and Fitness Gurus. Twins of industry following a similar road to redemption on the backs of the willing.
Neither group has a moral compass that will cause loss of sleep to anyone opting in to their “programs. In research I have seen price tags range from $15K to $35K for a personal program designed by these self-proclaimed “experts”.Many of us face struggles, depression, stress and anxiety. One of the reasons I started The Healthy Primate was to share in my personal experience. This road has taken me into some amazing places within my own physical, mental and emotional building blocks. From working 60+ hours a week, enduring a major shoulder surgery to recently welcoming in our fourth child 4 weeks premature. I know what the effects of life pressure cause first hand. I am no doctor; I don’t hold a PHD in psychology. I am just a man who works hard, wants the best for my family and has a platform to help other see the various options to deal with life in positive ways.
I am not going to say that the self help industry is a sham and after all it was a $10B market in 2014.
A quick amazon and Google search brings up over 375M options for Self Help. When you look at those in the space, one thing stood out. Many self-help books, teachers and gurus lack credentials or if they do, they are very uneven. Many do have a Masters Degree, are professors or Doctors. Yet over 90% of what is published is personal theory vs the actual science of dealing with the main issues we experience. I mean when was the last time you went looking for a good science journal article to read? Not that sexy.
When you dive into basic “coaching”, there is a noticeable absence of empirical evidence supporting the advice so copiously pumped out to the masses. You would think
Through research I have found many are relying solely or primarily on anecdotal evidence. If you are lucky, a few hard science facts are embedded in personal ideologies. There is no guarantee that the ‘secrets’ within the pages or lessons will be anything more than a stain in the undergarment of long-lasting change and sustained self-improvement.
In a future post I will dive into the science of why many of us feel they way we do. From anxiety, guilt, depression, anger to stress. If you understand the core building blocks, you can work to address them.
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Kolby I The Healthy Primate